What is anger? It is a normal human emotion that everyone feels and is healthy at times.
Anger on the other hand is dangerous when it gets uncontrollable and out of hand. Ideas flow inside your head that are so overwhelming that it may sometimes control you already. We may not know it but there are different varieties of anger which range from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. We humans respond to anger naturally aggressive most of the time. It is a common reaction to being threatened, afraid and an attempt to defend ourselves. Anger has been with humans for as far as we know we exist.
It may be caused by people around you, or it may be caused by you because of your own personal problems.
The myth to “Let it all hang out” is a very destructive myth in a sense that we use this as an excuse to lash out and create violence. Aggression only escalates the anger and invites a lot more problems in it.
How do you manage your anger?
First thing to do is identify and dissipate your anger before things get out of hand.
Relaxation techniques are some of the keys that can help you get through this powerful emotion.
Here is an example of relaxation technique called deep breathing
Sit with a relax posture then put a hand on your chest and another on the stomach.
- · Breathe with your nose and you should feel the hand on your tummy and your chest move along with your breathing.
- · Use your mouth for exhaling, squeezing the air out and constricting the abdomen. The hand on your tummy should be pressing down but the other stays moving a little.
- · Do this routine continuously and intake as much air as you can. As you exhale, count one to five to relieve stress.
Differentiation of Controlled Anger and Repression should be identified immediately. Repression is an anger bottled up and denied as it is. Which is very dangerous in a sense that it gathers its’ energy until it explodes. Controlled Anger however is the understanding and acceptance of anger that has been stirring in our mind. With the acceptance comes the understanding that if we let it grow, the consequence is far larger than what we know that may happen.
Remember that Anger is very hard to contain. However, we should learn to control our own reactions in order to live healthily among other people. A healthy mind is a healthy person.
Controlling anger before it controls you
